It Was When I Got Body-Shamed I Discovered I Am Body-PositiveTuesday, January 31, 2017
This was originally supposed to be on Instagram. But I want to get a discussion going so I'm putting it here instead.
I recently got body-shamed by an acquaintance who was trying to sell me some "magic" underwear. I won't go into much detail about the product except that it worked in making me an inch smaller everywhere by tucking stuff away. What I want to focus on was the way she pitched the product.
It was just so wrong.
Before I tell you what happened, I need to say that I am at my all-time heaviest. I'm petite but wear a size 10. I used to be a 0. Yes, I want to lose weight - who wouldn't? But I choose to work at it the healthy way instead of looking for a miracle. And if I don't go back to my original size, it's okay as long as I feel healthy.
So this woman, asked me to fit the "magic" underwear. She then tells me that my boobs look higher with her bra. Honey, I'm a few years away from 40. Gravity will catch up and I've accepted that.
Then she said my panties make my fat obvious. Sure, thongs and spanx are nice, but I choose comfort for my day to day wear. I don't have a need to look sexy when my schedule revolves around buying groceries, paying bills, walking the dog and cleaning litter boxes. And please, my granny panties rock!
No matter what she said to make me feel insecure, I had a comeback. I know my body is far from perfect but I've made peace with that fact and I'm okay with it. Sure, I'll work at being better but its not the end of the world if I can't wear a body hugging outfit.
What infuriates me is how she tried to prey on what she thought would be my insecurities for the sake of making a quick buck. I feel bad for the other women she has done this to. You might call me naive because this practice is everywhere. I know that. But on a more personal level, can't we be kinder to each other? There's enough shit going on - we don't need this.
The good thing that came out of this experience was I discovered I love myself more because of the way I reacted.